Mom: One person’s martial arts/Dedicated to mothers who need support, understanding and energy/Dolma Love Elephant

Every mother has her own martial arts world in her heart. When a new life chooses to live in you through a thousand "accidents", this martial arts world with only you and him is formed. There are no instant martial arts or martial arts secrets, and you cannot choose to quit the martial arts world. Only with superior wisdom as the foundation can you practice properly. Even so, sometimes you will inevitably go astray. The children who come to this earth have their own life to experience. Some children may skip a grade and choose some more strenuous forms to experience it. Continuously develop various skills to exercise your wisdom... At this time, changes in hormones bring about emotional ups and downs, including feelings of powerlessness, melancholy, guilt, and inexplicable tears... These reverse cultivation of various emotions will force you, who is internally unstable, to go crazy every minute. No matter how you call heaven and earth, no martial arts master will come to save you at this time. Only when your self-nature rises, can you see your true nature clearly, and fully understand that you and your child are just meeting to learn a lesson, and learn to fully accept life. All of this will naturally become the Bodhi wisdom in your life! / This bottle of botanical extract perfume is a gift for herself and her children from a mother whose child may have ADHD. "I finally returned to the workplace... But when my child was in trouble, I thought it was more important to accompany my child first. However, I still had a lot of uneasiness, especially when faced with his lack of confidence and fear, which made me very tired after a long time. I have also accumulated a lot of angry feelings, and recently I feel that we are both powerless.😂 Since I found out that I have an autonomic nervous system disorder, I have truly understood the feelings of emotions, and I have learned that I really need to let my children and family go when they need it! I’ve read Louise He’s book, and diseases are all related to emotions…” "This road is not easy to walk, but we are destined to come to this world together, so we both have to learn and grow. Through meditation and the guidance of fragrance, mother must first stabilize her physical and mental energy. It is easy for children to feel their mother's emotions. Only when the mother's heart is stable can the child's heart be stable." I said She said: "I don't know why I feel so happy chatting with you." I think it is because I have walked through these difficult roads in life. I have also stared into the abyss and was about to fall into the abyss, but at that moment I saw the child's face and thought that if I fell, what would happen to my child? What kind of life will you live in the future? At that moment, I felt a stable and warm energy welling up from my heart. It was as if the Bodhisattva had given me strength, giving me more wisdom and courage to face the days ahead. I felt like I was born new, and I seemed to see the future in my mind. The child looks confident and happy. Now that I have some strength to support and heal others, I not only have to thank life for giving me these experiences and training, but I also have to thank myself for my perseverance and bravery. After receiving the customized plant extract perfume, she said: "I like this smell so much! I am very strong and I am the best mother for my children ~ I really like the smell of earthy roots! I think it is not bad to be a tree, facing the sun and then again It can be firmly rooted in the ground." The tree pose in yoga is also one of my favorite movements. Its name comes from the posture. When standing on one foot, you need to root down like a "tree" and extend straight upward. Every time you do this posture, Standing on one foot, you are like a tree rooted in the soil, receiving the blows of wind and rain and enjoying itself. Maintaining body balance is the secret of yoga tree pose, so why not in life? / . Applicable situations: balancing energy, improving communication energy, emotional ups and downs, feeling powerless, melancholy, guilt, anger, inexplicable tears... . Fragrance sketch: floral, resinous . Body: Muladhara (circulatory system) Throat chakra (respiratory system), Heart chakra (heart and lung system), Stomach chakra (digestive system) Ingredients: Clove, lavender botanical perfume alcohol, Roman chamomile hydrosol, bergamot, nutmeg, sweet anise, myrtle, geranium, Highland lavender, Roman chamomile, benzoin, Virginia cedar, vetiver, rue Essential Oil Statement: . Bergamot—relieves stress, calms the mind, and releases anxiety . Nutmeg: refill enthusiasm and evokes vitality . Sweet fennel: regain hope in life and regain courage . Myrtle—flowing energy, bringing balance to listening and communication . Geranium—balances body and mind, brings love energy . Highland Lavender - relieves anger and anxiety . Roman Chamomile - Emotional First Aider, soothes inner emotions . Benzoin - a reassuring fragrance that brings perspective and wisdom . Virginia Cedar—Guiding the Soul to Break Through Difficulties . Vetiver—support from the richness of the earth . Rue: spicy and powerful scent, balancing physical and mental indigestion Flower Essence Declaration: . Cherry Plum Flower Essence: It can relieve high emotions like a balloon about to burst, ease impulses, and restore inner peace. . Oak Flower Essence (Oak): For situations that require endurance, Oak Flower Essence can also provide endurance support, making people stronger, possessing a steady stream of patience and energy, and recognizing that they must take care of themselves while taking responsibility. body and mind. ｜｜Banniang’s life story When my second son was born 15 years ago, the next day during a physical examination the doctor discovered that he had a very loud heart murmur. He was directly transferred to a large hospital for examination and confirmed that it was a large hole in the ventricular septum (VSD). The doctor said that it was congenital with unknown causes. He has a heart disease. Fortunately, he doesn’t need to go to the surgery room right away because of his long-term condition. However, he is afraid that he will have cardiopulmonary failure and he will need to start taking medicine (diuretics, etc.) from the moment he is diagnosed. At that time, giving medicine to his newborn baby felt like his own hands. It's like being fed poison. His heart is often filled with complex emotions, and he can't bear to cry because his little body has to bear them. During the whole confinement period, I couldn't eat very much, but I was afraid that the breast milk wouldn't be nutritious enough for him, so I had to force myself to eat it. I was afraid that his heart and lungs would fail and I wouldn't be able to feed him by myself. Every time I expressed breast milk, I watched his little body grow. I finished it with tears streaming down my face. During the postpartum care period, I became the hardest-working student. I was deeply afraid that something might happen to him, and my lack of professional knowledge would put him in a dangerous situation. Every day, I kept Understand the knowledge of caring for children with congenital heart disease and the current medical status of children with congenital heart disease at home and abroad. Due to the ventricular septal defect, he was very susceptible to infection in his infancy. During the postpartum care period, I had to take him to the emergency room frequently because of his fever, ear bleeding, and various other conditions. I remember one time he was hospitalized again due to an infection. The doctors at my house were running around and I couldn't express breast milk regularly. Soon I found out that I had a breast infection and mastitis. At that time, he was living in the children's ward and I was living on another floor. When my family could provide support, I personally went to the children's ward to see him with an IV stand in hand. In addition, his genetic allergies and atopic skin conditions were very serious, and I often looked at his little face as if it was about to be burned off. , the little hand that was pricked by the intravenous needle, the little face that was crying hoarsely because of the injection... The double blow of frustration and guilt, that time should be the biggest dilemma I have ever encountered in my life. (Thanks to my child’s aunt for providing the warm support of breast milk when I was unable to breastfeed due to antibiotics for mastitis.) During the postpartum care period, he was almost diagnosed with meningitis by the doctor. When I heard this, I knelt down and begged the Bodhisattva to be kind and willing to give him 10 years of my life. At that moment, I was so afraid that he would disappear from my hands. This is me This is the first time I have experienced the impermanence of life so deeply. I haven't finished postpartum care yet, and the company is urging me to go back to work early. The several months of parental leave I originally expected to take cannot be realized (my son's heart condition is not safe for others to take care of him, and he is afraid that the person taking care of him will be under great pressure). After knowing the situation, Mr. Dai, a teammate of Good God, took half a year of parental leave and took over to learn how to take care of the second child. From then on, the two of them depended on each other for half a year. Half a year later, after Mr. Dai was ready to go to work, I would like to thank my dear classmate the most for taking over the task of taking care of the second child. Until now, the second child will come here every year on his birthday to treat him to dinner on a date. Every time I treat him as When I wanted to thank her for inviting her to dinner, she said: This is a matter between the two of us, so don’t interfere! (Okay! He’s so funny, I’ll borrow you for today🥰) The days of frequently traveling between wards and emergency rooms lasted for about 3 years. Occasionally, I stayed up all night but continued to go back to the company during the day to work. I remember that during that period, I always carried it with me in my bag. Wear toiletries. Once, my son was hospitalized in an urgent condition. After confirming the situation, I immediately sent a message asking for leave. There happened to be a regular meeting in the company that day and I was unable to attend. Later, I was asked at work: If I didn't attend the meeting again, I would be demoted... I couldn't do it at the moment. I believe what I heard, and the fatigue of the past few days plus sadness and anger, I can feel my heart beating loudly even while typing. I remember that I wrote this with the mood of leaving the workplace: because I know the condition of my child. , I never take a day off during my annual leave because I am tired or can’t hold it any longer and need to take a rest. All the leave is reserved for emergencies for my children... Later, I received an apology, and I was relieved at that moment as I have a sweet temperament. We didn't know each other until we started fighting, and we became fairly close working partners for more than 10 years in the workplace. / I don’t know how many times, when I told the emergency doctor about the condition of my child in the emergency room, the doctor asked me, "Are you a medical staff?" I could only smile bitterly. In the past few years, I have become a "half-professional" to take care of children. Medical staff." I think this is the basic quality of all mothers of children with heart disease. They constantly absorb relevant knowledge, just to take good care of and accompany children with heart disease. When there is a situation, they can also use the most concise words to let the doctor understand themselves as soon as possible. The condition of the child. When I was raising my eldest child, I was a very optimistic mother. Except for colds and atopic dermatitis, I hardly knew any childhood diseases. When I raised my second eldest child, she demonstrated the symptoms of various childhood diseases, which made me wonder. Unconsciously, there is something wrong with the body and mind without even realizing it. The ventricular septum kept catching colds for a whole year, and I gave him medicine until my hands were shaking. Later, whenever I went out, I would help him wear a mask for fear of getting infected. Until one day, suddenly, a voice inside me told myself: "Don't Fear, the more afraid you are of him getting sick, the more he will get sick all the time. How can the child relax if the mother is so tense? Don't worry about him, just give him blessings." When I realized that it had been more than three years since I had been living like this, I told myself that I could no longer worry and wished my child well, and he would be fine. So I looked away, let go of myself and my children, and learned what I loved. I no longer worried about him, and no longer looked at him worriedly, fearing what would happen to him next. It was at that time that I came into contact with handmade soaps and plant essential oils, and devoted all my thoughts to diverting my worries about my children. Therefore, I always have a different emotion towards them, and I feel that they lead me to live out my life. Another reborn self. / One time when I took my child back for a heart checkup, I saw a mother of a new child with heart disease passing by with a panic look on her face. I seemed to see myself more than three years ago, when I learned about her child’s condition. The panic look and unstoppable tears in front of the doctor. "Mom is panicking, how can she take care of such a child? You must be calm and strong." I remember the kind old doctor told me, and I silently sent these words to her in my heart to cheer her up.  / The body has its own way of balancing. When the child is over 10 years old, there is still a small hole in the heart that has not yet healed. However, as long as it is safe, we treat him as a normal child and start exercising when he is two years old. He climbs suburban mountains to intermediate mountains, so his physical condition is even better than the average child. When he was born in Taiwan, the ventricular septum had to be repaired through surgery, and only in foreign countries there were experimental cases of using an umbrella to repair the ventricle. I often thought about this at the time, and I couldn't watch my favorite emergency room doctor series for many years. I originally thought that ventricular septum patching would not be widely used in Taiwan until the child reaches adulthood. When I went back for a consultation two years ago, the doctor told me that the ventricular septum patching can be used to repair the hole in his heart, so the child also completed this during the epidemic. surgery. At that moment, his heart was mended, and the broken corner of my life seemed to be mended as well.